I am ashamed that I am even responding to the anonymous commenter asking constantly about the giveaway… but I feel that I have to clarify why I am upset.
She came back today on the engagement photos post below, and commented that I am the rude one for even calling her out about it.
Dear Giveaway Entrants:
I can understand your excitement to know who won a giveaway–I would be too!–you think maybe you won, right? I totally get that part and appreciate it. Why not be excited? I enter giveaways all the time and hope I win, and wonder who won until the winner is announced. It’s disappointing when it takes a long time to know…
Think about this scenario:
If a boutique is giving away a free pair of shoes just for coming through the doors, and if you came back to the store and asked several times in two weeks, “Did I win them? Who won them”, they’d tell you to eff off. Then the store sales associates would talk shit about you in the employee break room over coffee. Who would do that? No shopper would do that. They know it’s bad manners! It’s the same thing with blog giveaways. Just because we’re behind the safety of a monitor and keyboard and web space doesn’t remove the need for communication manners and acting polite, especially when something fabulous being given away for free is involved.
The constant anonymous asking appears ungrateful and nagging. It is actually very rude. There is nothing rude about me calling you out about it. Maybe I could have framed it in a different way. I mean no disrespect to you, but this is MY website. That giveaway was a lot of effort to put together, and it’s incredibly discouraging when it feels like some people only came here for that. I took months and days to obtain the items, photograph them, edit the photos, post them. Then compile the results. Now I’m spending time on this.
If you are really excited about knowing if you won, why not say, “I’m excited to know who won the giveaway, can you let us know?” Or email me and ask? It’s not that hard to be a little nicer about it. Especially when this is something someone else benefits from and not myself. If anything, it’s kind of becoming a waste of my time.
Okay, I’m done ranting. I shouldn’t have even bothered responding. But you have disheartened me. I’m discouraged to the point of no longer wanting to offer giveaways, and I had some really, really good ones lined up.
I hope you understand where I’m coming from. Yeah, I’m a bitch, but you already know that. I’m allowed to be. It’s my website. If you don’t like it, I suggest you no longer read this site, and please don’t return for future giveaways, as I doubt there may be any. I’ll just give cool items to my trusted circle of blog friends.
It’s times like these I need to remind myself that this website is ultimately for ME, not my readers, and hopefully it is OTHER THINGS that bring quality visitors who resonate with me, my personality, and my content, rather than the shiny things people can just fill their junk drawers and closets with. It’s not really green to get more clutter, anyway.
Thanks for listening, and thanks to you who have been faithful, enthusiastic, and constructive visitors, you make the Internet a less hairy place to be.