Weekend Recap: Mau‘i No Ka Oi

Aloha Kakahiaka, Lovecat! It’s Hump Day! Yay!

Here is what my weekend looked like. WARNING: Picture Heavy. My weekend started on Thursday, since I had a mini-vacation planned for four days with my Mama-in-Law in town from Detroit.

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{ Thursday’s sunset lightshow. }

Thursday

Sunset chasing with Husby and MIL.

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{ Maui’s south shore from the sky. }


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{ Safety first, kiddies. }


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{ Happy Travelers! }


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{ My lunch crepe from Cafe de Amis in Pa‘ia, Maui – brie, avocado and apple crepe with local greens salad. }


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{ An OOTD shot. As Husby called it: “[a] poseur, posing.” }


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{ Dharma center (LOST) in Pa‘ia, Maui… Buddhist prayer temple thingy (?). }


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{ Rainbow State of Mind. }


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{ Our house! }


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{ AMAZING bnb find on http://www.airbnb.com! }


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{ Our four post bed in our AirBnB in Makawao. }


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{ Always, always, always over packed. }


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{ Pukalani Superette. Where we spied Dave Kalama in the parking lot. Google him. Big deal in Hawaii! }


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{ Junkies. }

Friday

  • Flight to Maui
  • Lunch, touring and shopping in Pa‘ia
  • AirBnB check-in in Makawao and some OOTD hammin’
  • Always over packed, always late and always over-dressed.
  • Went to Pukalani to find the Superette to buy some snacks for the BnB (we listen to Maui radio and wanted to go… such dorks), and spied one of the Godfathers of big wave tow surfing, Dave Kalama. (Google him. He’s a big deal in the surfing world… and in Hawaii.)
  • Hanging out and chilling at our BNB after dinner.

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{ Hale‘akala sunrise fail. }


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{ Once the clouds cleared, gorgeous views from Hale‘akala’s slopes. }


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{ Breakfast after failed sunrise trip under coffee trees in Kula, Maui. }


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{ Iao Needle in Iao Valley. }


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{ Iao Valley. The sacred river. }


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{ Sharon and Elisha of Eli*Sharon, the adorable fashion blog, and my besties. }


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{ Mystical Mountains in West Maui. }


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{ Caught gramming. J/K. Husby with his gear, trying to catch sunset, Napili, Maui. }


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{ Hammin during sunset chasing in Napili, West Maui. }


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{ Hammin’ Part Deux during sunset chasing in Napili, West Maui. }


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{ Sunset over Moloka‘i as seen from Napili. }

Saturday

  • 4AM wake up call for trying to catch sunrise from Hale‘akala, Maui’s large volcano, measuring at 10,000 feet above sea level (3,048m)
  • Sunrise fail. The summit was all socked in with clouds. We saw nothing. (Here is what Hale‘akala really looks like when you can at least see something. EPIC.)
  • After getting lost, a satisfying breakfast in Kula under coffee trees, serenaded by a local musician singing Hawaiian folk tunes on his acoustic and slide guitars. Epic.
  • Naps.
  • Road trip out to Iao Valley, hoping to get some good photos, but the valley was also wreathed in clouds and raining hard. The sacred area was still gorgeous, even in the mist and downpour.
  • Quick snack and coffee to warm up at Whole Foods where we ran into my bestie boo, Sharon and her hubby Eli(sha) by chance! Talk about good fortune! And yes, I can’t believe they dress this AMAZE for running errands, either!
  • Road trippin’ out to the west side of West Maui volcano to photograph mountains, sunset chase and catch dindin with Eli*Sharon.
  • Hammin for OOTD pics with Shar and Eli, while Husby and Mama got bored and waited in the car. LOL. Pictures to come from this “sesh” later.

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{ Husby’s rare selfie. Isn’t he so handsome?


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{ Doing makeup for brunch. }


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{ Mother’s Day brunch dessert at Market Fresh Bistro in Makawao, Maui, }


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{ Streetside waterfalls in the rain-soaked afternoon on Hana Highway AKA Road to Hana. }


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{ Gushing waterfall 4 of about 20 along the Road to Hana. Dangerous, but beautiful. }


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{ Black sands Hana Bay. }


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{ Me and my Mama hammin’. }


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{ The Poseur, asked to pose. }


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{ Dreams of Flying, on the black sands of Hana Bay Beach. }

Sunday

  • Mother’s Day Brunch at Market Fresh Bistro, complete with apple banana (Hawaiian banana) Nutella fritters for dessert. YUM.
  • Road trip on the hair-raising, winding and sometimes harrowing, Road to Hana (also seen here from our trip to Maui last year)
  • Lots of waterfalls gushing from rocks and rivers and swollen streams on the hair-pin Road to Hana… I’d be lying if I didn’t tell you some of these waterfalls terrified me–all the water and power? OMG.
  • Saw and felt the softest, pillowy black sand at Hana Bay Beach.
  • Dinner at Hana Ranch Restaurant… nothing to speak of.
  • Terrifying drive back to Makawao in the dark on the Road to Hana, which I did all on my own, no switching. *Pats self on back*
  • Chilling at home and then passing the heck out at 9PM.

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{ Hale‘akala sunrise reloaded… also epic fail. }


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{ Maui’s farmlands as seen from Hale‘akala. }


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{ As Husby put it, Maui, showing off. }


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{ Kula and West Maui mountains. }


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{ Facebook, Instagram and email junkies. }


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{ Our lovely view from our seat on the plane ride home. }


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{ Home… and welcome by the second worst traffic in the country. }

Monday

  • 3:45AM Wake up call to try to re-attempt another sunrise from Hale‘akala, given the clear and warm weather forecasts in Makawao and Kula.
  • Stuck behind a string of slow-driving idiot tourists all in Mustangs… we reached the summit, only for it to be wrapped in wet, super cold clouds, AGAIN!
  • Total fail.
  • Stuck behind slow-driving idiotic tourists who stopped in the middle of the road–with traffic behind them and bikers streaming past going down-mountain–to take a phone-pic of a rainbow. PULL OVER TO THE SIDE on the sanctioned shoulder, dummies! Don’t cause accidents, you morons! (I am so sorry to report, but they were my people: Asians! GOD, MUST YOU PERPETUATE THE STEREOTYPE?! Piss me off.)
  • Milquetoast breakfast a Kula Lodge Restaurant where there were literally two vegan options, Rice and Papaya. I had the pancakes and immediately regretted it. They were nice and fluffy and tasty, but I don’t eat dairy or eggs… total bad idea. My Mamasita reported that her french toast was so so. Not a recommendation, if you’re a vegan, or expect a gourmet experience.
  • BNB check out.
  • Airport to return car and fly back to O‘ahu. – Least interesting view from our window. We were stuck next to the engine and wing. We could see nothing from the plane. :(
  • Stuck in Honolulu traffic (second worst in the nation!) to pick up Bear from the kennel.
  • Dinner and then immediately went to bed, super exhausted!

Now I’m home, back to reality and already making a wish list for our next trip to Maui! I wish we could go SOON! We’re so lucky to have all these amazing places to see so close by! Thanks, Husby, for the amazing birthday/mother’s day getaway. Best present ever. <3

More detail of our trip later!

{ What did YOU do for Mother’s Day weekend? Do you have any vacation plans lined up for spring or summer? DO TELL! }

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx

*All photos by me except for photos 2 (Maui from the sky), 6 (my OOTD in hat), 11 (Bed), 14 (MIL and me on phones), 23, 24 (MIL and me on beach), 26 (husby selfie), 27 (me putting on makeup), 29 & 30 (waterfalls), 32 & 33 (at Hana Bay with MIL and me posing), 40 (traffic)


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A Song for Mama

Aloha, Lovecat,

Happy Mother’s Day to the Mothers, Soon-to-Be Mothers and Doggie Mommies out there who join us here in the world of thereafterish.! May your day be a delight and bring a pulse of happiness and a thrill of pleasure into your soul.

In honor of your day, Ladies, Gorjana, one of my favorite jewelry/accessory designers, is having a huge Mother’s Day Sale up to 30% off with the code “FORMOM.” Here are my picks: One, Two, Three, Four.

This is an oldie but a goodie. For my mum. I love you, even though you aren’t allowed to read this blog.

“Jaded Over Pantyhose”

When I was a little girl, I would look at my mummy and see her wearing panty hose underneath her pretty suits and dresses. She’s wear silk and satin and a billowing scarf would be tied in folds around her neck, afixed in some beautiful elaborate knot, or pinned down by a shining brooch. She’d adorn her neck with simple necklaces that would fall just so and would fall between her ample cleavage in a subtle way. She’d wear blouses and jackets with deep, plunging neck lines and curl her hair every day. I’d sometimes pull up her skirt while she was applying her make up and marvel at the lace on her slips and garters. She was sexy back then.

Makeupless, she was still beautiful. She had a simple beauty that was classic and subtle. Her face is wide for her small frame, with a high nose bridge (uncustomary with Pilipino faces) and large brown almond eyes. She also has thin arching brows that accent her eyes. Her lips are full and always pink, whether or not she has lipstick on. Her complexion is light. Almost golden undertones on a beige-y tanned skin. Being light, she was without question a great beauty in the Philippines in her younger days.

Even now, I still find her beautiful and wonder if I live in the shadows of her youth.

Her make up application process was nothing short of extraordinary, too.

The process would begin with a foundation base, which she would pour sparingly into the palm of her left hand and mix with several brushes and then finally apply. Then she would lighten the slightly darker skin under her eyes and around her nose. Then a dusting of powder. By this time, her skin was this even creamy tone that made her look different. Almost as if she were half chinese. I marveled at my China Doll Mummy. She’d pick several bottles and containers from her large box of pink and gold plastic containers–she swore by Mary Kay back then. Sticks and brushes of many different sizes jutted from random places in the box, and she’d gently tap my hand when I tried to play with them.

I found eye shadow to be fascinating. With just one stroke, one’s entire eye lid could become the sky, or a pearlescent shade of pink or mauve or taupe. She’s dip the sponge applicator into the pot of colour and then paint her eyelid different colours, depending on what she was wearing. It would darken or lighten her face, give her smoky, dramatic eyes, or playful, bouncy eyes. It was amazing. And then following that, she would take a pencil or a tube of something with a small little brush at the end of it, and line her eyes slowly. Moving her face close to the glass as possible, she would spend about 2 minutes to line each eye precisely, with the thinnest possible line she could manage to draw or paint. Then, grabbing another tube or something, she would open her mouth, gaping almost, and apply black goo to her lashes. She called it mascara. I didn’t know what it did. I tried to use it once on myself. I ended up with black marks all over my eyelids and burning goo in my eyes and I cried and it ran all over my face like black lacerations.

I thought I could be sexy like my mummy. No such luck.

She put blush on her cheeks. Sucking in her cheeks, she would apply the rouge where the sucked in areas accented her cheekbones, and then pulled the brush to her hair line.

And that was that. Sometimes she’d wear lip stick. Other times she wouldn’t.

Then, while I watched her panty hose move, she’s walk me to my room where she’d pick out my outfit and then dress me and then shuffle me back to her bathroom to do my hair.

But there were days I couldn’t watch her. I’d miss her panty hose. I’d miss the rustling sound of wind moving through the trees that they made as her skirt and slip would swish against them when she walked. I missed the strange smoothness of them when I’d sit at her feet clutching her legs when she was at her bathroom counter doing her hair or make up. I missed looking at her wishing I could be a pretty mummy who went to work and wore make up and panty hose and looked so grown up in her suits and jewelry.

Those days, my dad would make me breakfast, put my hair up in lop-sided braids, tell me to dress myself and then take me to school. I’d make him walk me to class, holding his hand and skipping as he walked, straight backed and tall (taller than me at the time, but nowadays he’s about 3 inches shorter than my 5’2″) in his 3 piece suits and silk patterned ties. He was great, but his suits didn’t make the whispering swish sound that mum’s skirts and panty hose made. Those panty hose were magical. She turned heads when she came into a room. People would smile as I walked around gripping her hand in mine. She was beautiful. It was definitely the panty hose.

But now, I think I know better.

I wake up early in the morning, put on a skirt and blouse and of course, don the panty hose. Sometimes with garters, sometimes fishnets, sometimes control top. I find them to be constricting and binding. They’re too tight, or they ride, or my garters fall, because I’m skinny and the garters are always made for bigger people and my hose pulls them down. They rip and tear easily. A klutz like me wasn’t made for heels+hose combinations as sometimes I step wrong or cross my legs awkwardly and my heels will catch in my hose and rip and run it. After which I am frantic to find clear nail polish to apply to the run to keep it from spreading. My poise is broken then, of course. My mum never seemed to have this problem. They run. They stretch. Sometimes I retire a pair and use them to tie up blankets that are being stored during unuse. If a sleeping bag’s bindings come loose and fall off, I use pantyhose to bind them.

At the end of the day, when I remove my dress shoes, they smell musty, with a day’s sweat lingering on them. It is more a relief to take them off than wear them. I get no little joy in removing a pair at the end of a hectic day. I throw them in the laundry basket with a lackluster that only belies my great happiness in being out of them.

I grew up and tried to see the world of beauty I saw as a child. My mum never complained about being grown up. She never threw a pair of hose into the laundry basket the way I do. But then again, she always worked in the evenings, and I didn’t see her until dinnertime. So I didn’t know. She probably didn’t see very much magic in a smelly pair of panty hose.

Now, neither do I.

It is she who was [and is] magic.

~~written May 9th, 2005 for my Mum, Mollie CM. Originally posted HERE.

{ Did your mum inform the person you are? Or do you have another woman in your life who helped shape you into the person you are today? }

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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A Big Girl Birthday

Aloha, Lovecat!

Although I celebrated my birthday two nights ago, IT’S MY BIRTHWEEK**, so I wanted to let you in on my celebration. Here are some photos from my surprise birthday dinner party at YuZu, a vegetarian/vegan friendly sushi joint in Ala Moana.

{ Surprise! A Big Girl Birthday Dinner Party With People! Yay For Friends and Vegetarian Sushi! }

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{ Make a wish! My birfday strawberry nutelle crepe. }

As I stated yesterday, my birthday wish was to have something super low-key, understated, quiet and possibly boring. I didn’t want anyone or anything to be a big deal for my thirty-first. A cheap dinner and a walk on the beach would’ve been perfect, but Husby wanted to go out to dinner, so I suggested our new Japanese go-to restaurant in Ala Moana (the district with the big-ass mall next to Waikiki), YuZu, which provides a much broader range of options for vegans and vegetarians than other Japanese/Asian restaurants in Honolulu.

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{ Husby’s vegan-friendly veggie nigiri sushi platter. All vegan options! Delish! }


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{ My dinner entrée: Seafood Dynamite roll – Teriyaki salmon and shiitake mushrooms on dynamite roll bed. I’m a pescetarian – a fish-only vegetarian with vegan tendencies. }


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{ Nigiri sushi balls @ Yuzu, Ala Moana at ma birfday dindin. }

When we walked in the door, running ten minutes late, I spied our friend JB, a triathlete, extreme hiker and Doctor of Group Hugs and Handshakes, sitting on the couch in the lounge. He gave me a hugely quizzical face, probably mirroring the perplexedness wrinkling up my face. I didn’t recognize him at first, since he was scrubbed up all nice, and I only ever see him in biking or hiking gear, covered in a sweaty sheen with some streaks of Hawaiian red mud. I’m sure he was stunned by my beauty (read: not at all). LOL.

After we were seated for a few, ordered some drinks, who comes sauntering in but my very first real friend in Hawaii, Allie (of life & style blog, Heels, Eggs and Rice) and her boyf G! Allie draped a gorgeous, fragrant orchid lei about my shoulders, and, at that moment I felt like some sort of pageant queen.

Husby then informed me that our other friends M, C and their son Nico couldn’t make it, and that he had forgotten to invite a few other people. Of course, I was pretty thrown off, because I wasn’t expecting people. Husby and I generally celebrate our birthdays just the two of us and in quietude. To have people at a birthday dinner is a huge change! It would’ve been a full-on grown up party! I’ve only ever had a few of those in my life, so it was a beautiful night.

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{ Da group. Missing a few good people. :( }


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{ Allie and I discussing eyebrows and fashion bloggers, and the men discussing hiking… and GD hopping in between convos. LOL! }


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{ Birfday girl’s delicious dessert. }

For dessert, I ordered a Nutella organic strawberry crépe (with the whipped creme 86′d–don’t do full on sugared dairy). Delicious, nutty, chocolate-y goodness to finish off a night of amazing conversation, friendship and fun in a gorgeous, dimly-lit, homey environment.

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{ Shaka to yo mada! }

I decided against wishing, since all my birthdays have been progressively better, and each year of life improves upon the last. With my family, friends and amazing life in Hawaii, I decided making wishes would be hypocritical or excessive, or even may jinx all the good fortune with which we’ve been blessed over the last two years. I’ll just let the Universe continue to bestow all the amazingness and ride the current for as far as it takes us, perpetuating good waves and vibrations by trying to remain drama and negativity-free.

A wonderful night, all in all. Better than a mountain of presents. Mos’ def.

{ Do you make wishes on your birthday? What do you usually wish for? Share with me in the comments below! I’d love to know! }

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx

**FYI: This entirely spoiled rotten, indulgent notion of a birthweek is completely farcical and said in a joking manner. I would never encourage or demand anyone celebrate my birthday for a week straight. That’s just way bratty. Also, it would be too taxing on my energy to have to celebrate that much.


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31 Birfdays

Aloha, Lovecat,

Do you know someone who is a total brat about his or her birthday? Loves reveling in the celebration, giddy like an excited eight year old in the thought of receiving presents and having people lavish them with attention?

{ Birthday Brat }

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{Birfday girl. Wearing a WWD paper hat.}

A birthday brat. That’s me. I turn into a child every spring. We all know That Person–the one who makes their birthday the biggest friggin’ deal of the year, expects dinners and presents galore, calls it a Birth Month and expects their friends and family to play along with their Me Show. There’s one in every circle of friends and every family. I may happen to be That Girl in my family.

What can I say? I normally don’t like being the center of attention (believe it or not), but when my husband makes a big deal of me, I lap it up. And, seriously, a girl loves her presents. We don’t normally give each other huge anniversary presents (since we have three anniversaries) or Christmas presents… so, once a year it’s nice to get some goodies.

Husby has a 6-7 year running joke that he doesn’t remember my birthday or won’t do anything to celebrate it. So, for the last two years I’ve made an effort not to make a big deal about my birthday, not go overboard with mentions or reminders or ask for anything. Last year he rewarded me with a sumptuous dinner date, a couple’s spa afternoon and an extravagant shopping spree. (It was my Big Dirty Thirty.) In light of the luxurious (and expensive!) celebration last year, I decided to be pretty nonchalant about it all this year, shrugging when asked what we wanted to do, replying that I wanted something quiet and low-key, small and boring.

I like quiet and boring. With the right people, it’s a Happy Place.

I fully planned on napping in the car on my lunch break after my daily lunch walk through the wonderfully air conditioned mall near the office. Instead I received an email around 10AM:

I wanna take my girl out. What time can I get you? Where can we go? You can nap later.

So. Cute.

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{My birfday lunch: vegetarian/vegan picnic in the park with my family.}


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{Husby and Max the Bear, the best presents I’ve ever had in my life.}

Husby and Max picked me up for lunch at the office, we hit up a local deli for our vegan and vegetarian eats and then drove to Kapiolani Regional Park in the shadow of Diamond Head, found an extremely shaded spot and copped a squat on a beach towel for a makeshift picnic. Perfect lunch date with my perfect little ohana (family).

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Max begging and Husby enabling…


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{Caught picnic gramming.}

Although I’ve been joking it’s my Birfweek on my social media, yesterday was the perfect singular day for my birthday. After we got home, I grammed for a bit on the couch, then we went out to dinner. More on that tomorrow.

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{Reflection selfie}


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{Birthday selfie: the perfect understated necklace from my best friend Lily, a single crazy lace earring and coral lipstick smiles.}


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{You can see my hormonal acne if you look closely. LOL.}

It was definitely the best way to celebrate 31 years. I’m now firmly in my Thirties. I love it.

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{Reflecting on life.}

Along with another year of life, I find myself reflecting about how I live and the years behind me. And I truly must say, life does get better as one ages. Do you find that’s true? If not, you’re living wrong.

{ Do you know a Birthday Brat? Are you one? Do you find that life gets better the older you get? How do you celebrate your birthdays? Please share in the comments! }

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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Day in the Life: Home – Put Down the Damn Phone

Aloha, Lovecat,

Have you ever been so engrossed with something so petty or meaningless (like a phone or a magazine article), that you miss the greater beauty of the moment happening around you?

This happened to me yesterday.

{ A Day in the Life: Life is Beautiful, Put Down the G*DD*MN Phone! }

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{My Hawaii Life: Shaka – It’s all good.}

N sat on the couch next to me, a bowl of salad on his lap, crunching away on his greens. In between bites, he paused and gasped.

“Oh my effing God,” he said, leaning forward.

“Mm-hmmm,” I mumbled, scrolling through my Instagram feed.

“I can’t believe we live here! Look at that sky!”

I briefly looked up from my iPhone. The sky was afire, apricot, peach, tawny reds, some lavenders, a little pink tinge on that wisp of cloud, and a gradient of infinite, deepest blue. Against this coat of many colors, the cone silhouette of Koko Head had a patch work of light playing against the dry greens and yellows and browns, shadows creeping deep in the ridges and grooves eroded into the sides of the volcano. The moon was a quiet shimmer through the clouds, ready to rise once sunlight completely died.

N’s mouth was agape.

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{Sunset chasing and sweet kisses from my Son[Dog] Max.}


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{Poke!}

I went back to my phone and the beautiful women in beautiful clothes crowding my timeline.

“Seriously, look at this… this is effing beautiful!” N continued, pausing to take another humongous bite of his dinner salad. “Did you ever think to yourself, three-four years ago, that we’d ever in our lives be living here?”

“Uh uh,” I mumbled, shaking my head, not taking my eyes from my phone.

Gorgeous outfits and sky-high heels flashed before my eyes as I tapped and scrolled, tapped and scrolled, liking a photo quickly and moving on to the next without commenting. I continued scrolling from photo to photo for awhile before I realized N had stopped talking.

I looked up. N’s brow furrowed deeply, lines cutting across his head like cracks in a dry lake bed. A deep fissure between his eyebrows. A look of concern and stern scolding flashing in his dark eyes.

“What?”

“Don’t you ever put down your damn phone? Look where we are. Listen to what we’ve just been talking about. Look outside and see how lucky we are. You live where you never dreamed you’d be. Why don’t you just put down the phone and be in the moment for a second?”

He snatched the iPhone out of my hand and tossed it on the floor, just a ways out of my reach. Normally something like this would annoy the shit out of me, but he was absolutely right. I needed to be in this moment, a moment of true and stunning beauty that may never be replicated.

Koko Head’s slopes were darkening in the waning light and the moon had gained strength from that quiet shimmer to a glowing orb, silver and hazy behind the clouds.

I gasped. All my breath disappeared for a quick second.

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{Koko Head and moonrise.}

Truth is, no, before I met N, I had never imagined living in Hawaii, let alone travel there. I mean, I’d wished I could visit, but on a poor college kid’s budget, not something I’d really fantasize about and plan in detail. Before I met N, no one had ever said they’d take me there, or talked about what was here. I never played the Anywhere But Here Fantasy game where I’d imagine different scenarios and daydream about vacations and excursions in this exotic locale of legendary sunsets, gorgeous rainbows and white sands. Before I met N, I’d never let my dreams venture farther than the reaches of the eastern coast of the United States or farther south than Baja Mexico (where I’d already been) or farther west of the California coastal town I lived in. My mind just didn’t expand or widen enough to include faraway places and foreign lands or tropical destinations. I was firmly and plainly a continental girl, living in a bubble and unimaginative beyond all measure.

Then I met N, who came from a weird and foreign place (Detroit), who had traveled the globe and was interested in it… and my entire perspective of the world changed. All of a sudden, there WAS a world out there. It actually existed and real people lived in it and had stories to tell. Not just the stories I heard on the news or saw in movies or read on blogs or in magazines. All the fairytales and fantasies were real, happened in real castles and cathedrals and palaces and in hillsides and forest glades, along rivers and in lakes and in glorious, towering mountains, and not just as the history books told them!

I know I make my teenage and early 20 something self sound so naive, but in truth, I really was that sheltered. Sure, I knew the world existed, but never once did I think I’d go out and explore it, so it never made sense to be curious or imagine a life of adventure in it for myself.

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{Max looking out over Hawaii Kai, to our mountainside neighborhood, Mariner’s Ridge.}

So now that I find myself living this weird and beautiful Hawaiian adventure with my husband and my Wheaten Terrier, why do I let myself miss out on it so often?

We sacrificed a lot, slaved for years and risked much to come and build a life here. Given everything we’ve been through to make our own dreams real, why take it for granted or even forget that it’s here? Why obsess over material things I’ll never give myself and obsess about beautiful women I may never meet, whose style I can’t attain? There are much more beautiful, gorgeous things happening here in Hawaii. The best runway show at Paris Fashion Week could never rival the light show that runs across our Hawaii skies each night.

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{I put down my phone for a second to enjoy the view.}

Sometimes, you realize how absolutely breathtaking your life is… you only have to put down that goddamned phone to see it.

{ Have you ever come to a similar realization? }

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx

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The Great Gatsby

Aloha, Lovecat,

The Great Gatsby was such a definitive book in the shaping of my literary ideals as a child. Next to literary greats such as J.R.R. Tolkien and his Middle Earth universe and the rebellion against Victorian ideals of Jane Austen’s heroines, Fitzgerald’s Jay Gatsby and his narrative companion Nick Carraway showed me how a great descriptive voice and character psychology could propel me out of my own reality into another without so much as lifting a finger. A good writer can transport you to whole different worlds between the pages of his or her book. F. Scott Fitzgerald will always be one of my favorite writers for this reason. He threw me into the Roaring 20s with its decadence, grandeur and quick changes of fortune with Jay and his love for Daisy B.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been anticipating this film since before it was an idea in Baz Luhrmann’s head, before Jay-z made headlines for being responsible for the score and music production and Beyoncé created a miniature scandal for covering Amy Winehouse’s “Back to Black.” Since I fell in love with the shining farce of Gatsby’s world and the crumbling ruin of his glittering lasciviousness as it dramatically falls around him, I’ve wished for a hero of a director to take it and make our imaginations come to life in a modern, artful way. (You know, other than the 1970s and 1940s versions.)

I honestly cannot wait for this film. I’ve waited over sixteen years for this. And it happens to debut the weekend after my thirty first birthday. Perfect timing.


For more information and movie stills visit the film’s Official Website. And, if you haven’t yet, I would highly encourage you to pick up the book and throw yourself into the turbulent, crooked and shiny world of The Great Gatsby.

{ Did you love The Great Gatsby when you were younger? How do you feel about the film? Will you go see it? }

Have a great weekend, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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Day in the Life: Swimming Hole versus Wheaten Terrier

Aloha, Lovecat,

This weekend, we hike five miles. Along a mountain ridge, descended the mountainside into a valley, followed a stream to a waterfall with swimming hole. This is video evidence that my Wheaten Terrier (which we also call our Bear[dog]), Max, enjoyed the hike.

I hope your weekend was lovely. Have a great week!

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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It’s OK.

It’s okay to take a break.
You’re not perfect.
You can’t be “On” all the time.
After point, being “ON” all the time drains you, just like a battery.
Sometimes, you just have to flip to “off” to recharge.
And it’s OK.
The Universe will understand.

When you tell yourself it’s OK, you begin to forgive yourself for all the things you didn’t do, you forgive yourself for all the things you did do. You begin to be grateful for what you were able to accomplish.
When you feel gratitude, you begin to feel love.
And love is the most healing power.

When you Do You first, you can conquer other things in your life with a greater sense of confidence and passion.

So tell yourself right now, “It’s OK. You’re Okay. I forgive you. I love you. Thank you.”
And tomorrow, start off with, “I’m going to be OK today.”

The Healthy Way to Get Your Vitamin D

Aloha, Lovecat!

If you’re curious or confused about Vitamin D and how to get the recommended dosage? Keep reading. This post may clear up some uncertainty for you!

As a Lupus Survivor, learning about this health issue was eye-opening and extremely important for my well-being. After a particularly bad lupus flare after being in the sun for 6 hours (with sun protection, mind you), I decided I needed to do a little more research about UV exposure and Vitamin D was a huge topic that kept on popping up. My fellow auto-immunies may find this article particularly helpful.

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{Vitamin D3 Supplements: one of the healthiest, cheapest ways to get your recommended daily dose of the bone-strengthening stuff.}

Until recently, everyone touted Vitamin C as the wonder ingredient and miracle nutrient. And yes, it’s true, Vitamin C is essential in any anti-aging and healthy skin and body regimen, but new research shows that Vitamin D is one of the best things you can put in your body.

Why Vitamin D is Good For You

Vitamin D is like calcium’s co-pilot. Vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium, fortifying the bones. It’s essential for bone health. Vitamin D is also essential in the “modulation of cell growth, neuromuscular and immune function, and reduction of inflammation,” according to the National Institutes of Health. Considering that many cells in the body—up to 2,000 genes, reports Women’s Health— respond to or are regulated by Vitamin D, it is basically a nutrient that every part of your body needs.

Vitamin D Deficiency

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{Some very mis-informed, old-school doctors blame safe sun practices like use of sunscreen or wearing sun protection clothing for some individuals’ Vitamin D deficiency.}

The lack of Vitamin D in the body has been linked to a myriad of health problems, including, but not limited to, “depression, heart disease, pregnancy problems, birth defects, skin and other cancers, and multiple sclerosis” according to Women’s Health.

Some doctors blame excessive sunscreen and sun protection use as the culprit for Vitamin D deficiency. But I argue that that view demonizes one of the most healthy lifestyle choices a person can make without examining or even mentioning other important causation factors or the health risks of obtaining vitamin D through sun exposure.

Firstly, Vitamin D is severely lacking in the traditional American Diet. Cold water fish (cod, tuna, sockeye salmon, sardines), fortified dairy (yogurt, milk, cheese) and mushrooms all have vitamin D. But the average American doesn’t incorporate these into his or her diet to get enough of the recommended dose. Additionally, some vegetarians and vegans, in particular, will often find themselves Vitamin D deficient because they don’t consume foods containing the nutrient. However, over-eating any of the Vitamin D rich foods may lead to some health risks, and most foods don’t contain enough IUs to get the recommended amount.

Skin color plays a part in Vitamin D deficiency as well. Melanin blocks UV rays from penetrating the skin, decreasing Vitamin D conversion. The darker your skin, the more melanin you have. So, lighter-skinned people will absorb more UV and Vitamin D, whereas darker-skinned folks, less. People of color often age slower than their Caucasian counterparts, but they can often be Vitamin D deficient as well.

Lastly, sunscreen usage and sun protection plays a role in Vitamin D blockage, but has inherent health risks.

Vitamin D from UV Exposure = Unfriendly Fire

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Some old-school, mis-informed Doctors prescribe tanning or sun bathing during peak UV hours (10AM – 3PM) to their Vitamin D deficient patients. A big no-no, according to the National Institute of Health.

UVB rays interact with the skin and convert it into Vitamin D3. BUT! (And it’s a big one!) In order to get the right amount, you’d need to be completely un-protected and exposed to the sun between peak UV hours (10AM – 3PM in broad daylight) for 15 minutes, or you’d need to tan in a tanning bed. According to the National Institutes of Health (NIH), sunscreens over SPF 8 do appear to block some amount of UVB. HOWEVER, NIH cautions that most people in general don’t use sunscreen properly or reapply as instructed. “Therefore, skin likely synthesizes some Vitamin D even when it is protected by sunscreen as typically applied.” (NIH.gov)

Numerous health organizations, American Academy of Dermatology, the Skin Cancer Foundation AND the National Institute of Health all agree that trying to obtain Vitamin D from sun exposure poses serious health risks: namely, skin cancers. NIH goes as far as to state: “there are no studies to determine whether UVB-induced synthesis of Vitamin D (Vitamin D from UV rays) can occur without increased risk of skin cancer.” Additionally, if you live north of Atlanta, Georgia, during the fall and winter you can’t get enough UVB to produce the recommended amount of Vitamin D, anyway. Even if you’re able to synthesize Vitamin D from UV rays, most people go over and above the recommended 15 minutes, after which, UV rays begin to damage the skin at the cellular level, leading to collagen and elastin breakdown, resulting in wrinkles, crepey skin, spots and sagging. And remember, UVB is what produces Vitamin D, but the whole time you’re outside, you’re absorbing UVA rays, too, which don’t do ANYTHING for you, health-wise, and certainly not aging-wise.

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National Institutes of Health: “There are no studies to determine whether UVB-induced synthesis of Vitamin D (Vitamin D from UV rays) can occur without increased risk of skin cancer.”

UV rays can trigger flares of certain auto-immune diseases as well, such as lupus and arthritis. Personally speaking, whenever I spend more than an hour or two outside, I often get serious lupus flares, even though I cover up, wear UPF gear (rash guard, hat) and apply/reapply SPF 50+ broad spectrum sunscreen.

The health and skin health risks of getting Vitamin D from sun exposure seriously outweigh any benefit. Why try to do your body good only to risk cancer and severe aging?

The safest way to get Vitamin D

The safest way to get your Vitamin D is to ingest it the old fashioned way: take your vitamins. Supplements come in easy to swallow gel caplets. Laura Armas, M.D., assistant professor of endocrinology and a researcher in the Osteoporosis Research Center at Creighton University in Omaha, Nebraska, tells Women’s Health that Vitamin D supplements are the “easiest, cheapest and safest way to make sure you’re covered.”

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Do like your mama told you: Take your vitamins (and wear a hat)!

Take a Vitamin D3 (important to note that it is D3) capsule of at least 600IUs to get the recommended daily allowance (RDA) for the average person aged 1-70. After age 70, aim for 800 IUs. You can get supplements at any drugstore, health food store, super market or Costco for minimal cost.

There have been some concerns that it is possible to OD on Vitamin D, resulting in blood toxicity. Because D is fat-soluble and not water-soluble (like Vitamin C), your body won’t pee out the excess. However, recent studies have shown that the body can tolerate even large doses of D over long periods before reaching toxicity. According to the Mayo Clinic, you’d have to take 50,000 IUs daily for several months to reach toxicity.

Doctors may prescribe more Vitamin D3 than the RDA to treat certain auto-immune diseases or health disorderS. My Rheumatologist prescribed 3,000 IUs of Vitamin D3 daily and told me to limit my outdoor activities to a couple hours or less and always wear sun protection, in order to reduce chances of severe lupus flares.

In conclusion, Vitamin D is essential to maintaining good health and strong bones. The sun doesn’t play as nice as you think. If you want to keep the wrinkles at bay, stay healthy, reduce your chances of skin cancer AND save money, just do like your mom told you all those years ago: take your vitamins and put a hat on before going outside.

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


Originally featured Escaping The Sun In Style.
Resources:
American Academy of Dermatology. “Vitamin D.”
Bailey, Cynthia, MD. “The Best Year Round Sun Protection.”
Bowman, Alisa. Women’s Health Magazine. “Why You Need More Vitamin D.”
The Mayo Clinic. “What is vitamin D toxicity, and should I worry about it since I take supplements?
National Institutes of Health (US Government). “Dietary Supplement Fact Sheet: Vitamin D.”
The Skin Cancer Foundation. “Make Vitamin D, Not UV, a Priority.”
The Skin Cancer Foundation. “Vitamin D.”

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Day in the Life: Letter to a Stuffed Animal

Aloha, Lovecat,

Does a dear one in your life hang on to something, and, for the life of you, you just can’t understand why?

My husband N, age 34, has a stuffed bear that sits on his bedside table, gathering dust, mites, perhaps even mold, and is almost as old as he is. For years I wondered, why not throw the tattered, ratty, disgusting thing out? N is neither a proverbial “Man’s Man” nor an effeminate man who enjoys the softer side of life. N is, for lack of words, just a regular dude–he hikes, he surfs, he likes video games, The Walking Dead and pizza and writes software for a living. So why hang on to a dirty stuffed bear which has seen better days?

After some time, I realized I could learn a few things from the 3 decade-long relationship between N and his bear. It took me several tries to write this letter, not realizing it would evoke some very emotional reactions and tears as I wrote it.

{Lessons in Love and Life from a Childhood Teddy Bear}


Dear Crimmie the Christmas Cub,

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Crimmie lives on N’s nightstand.

N’s had you since he was 4, when his mother gave you to him for Christmas. Being so young, he couldn’t say Christmas, and so called you Crimmie. You’ve been in N’s life since then, and you became a part of mine when N and I started dating.

For years, I could never understand why he could hold on to you after such a long time. You were tattered, your nose button had fallen off somewhere, you made me sneeze whenever I moved you out of the way to clean the nightstand, you were no longer snowy white, but a dingy pale grey. N wasn’t a super sentimental type, so having you around always seemed strange to me. Most adults grow out of their childhood toys and eventually let them go, donating them to second hand stores or giving them to younger siblings and family so that they could be enjoyed by someone else who appreciated the soft comfort of a stuffed animal. Despite having given away most of his childhood toys, he kept you, and I just didn’t get it.

But, after wracking my brain for reasons, and, after living many years with N, I realized you have taught me important lessons about my husband.

You’re here with us, living on N’s night stand, as a reminder of a mother’s love. Because N grew up and moved away from his mother, you remind him of a comforting presence in his life. Next to a mama’s hug, a cute stuffed bear is pretty comforting. To him, you will always be a reminder that his mama loved and will always love him.

As you know, N went through rough times when he was 8, when his parents divorced. He had his human friends, but they, also being his age, didn’t get it and couldn’t offer the level of comfort and empathy he needed to get through that time. As his favorite playmate, you were there for him, empathized with him, snuggled with him and kept him warm on those nights he was sad and didn’t understand what was happening. I’m sure you listened to his young voice telling you about all of his confusion and sadness late into the night during those rough months when everything in his little world seemed to be falling apart.

But you were also with him before that scary time, back when the family was together and happy.

You are not only his longest-standing close friend, you’re also a reminder of the carefree childhood he had with his family.

Even as N grew up and grew out of childhood things like stuffed animals and hide-and-seek, you were one of the enduring things from his childhood that stayed with him. You went to high school and college with him. You even came along when he moved out and into his own place. And now you’re with us. For all those years, you’ve been by his side, watching over him from his nightstand.

You’ve taught me that, to my husband, family is the utmost important thing in his life. (Whereas with some people, friends might be.) And the second is enduring, deep friendship. You also taught me that my husband values loyalty and understanding and quiet gestures of love rather than other love languages–an empathic ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, a comforting hug to warm the coldness of a hard, sad day. You also show me that my husband is a devoted and loyal friend himself. Despite how you’ve both aged, you’ve been together for the better part of 3 decades–you’re almost as old as I am.

With the example of your long relationship with N, I know I can look forward to a long, loving relationship with him, too. I know that I can be the warm, comforting presence in his life that you remind him of, but I can also be the compassionate, loyal friend to him that you have always been, and I know that I can expect the same from him. I know that I will one day, someday, give him a loving family, and together, we’ll make a warm, happy home. And, because I know these things give N’s life meaning, I know that our life together will be happy… and hopefully long.

Thank you for teaching me these lessons.

I guess this means that I won’t be throwing you out. But it certainly means it’s time you’ve had a bath.

Love,
Mae


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Life in Pictures: Last Week, According to my iPhone

Aloha auinalā, lover!

How are things in your world? Last week things were pretty fun, my uncle visited and stayed with us for a week after working the Honolulu 1st International Auto Show, and so we took him around our Island home here and there. It was pretty fun.

{ Life in Pictures / Week in Pictures: What We Were Up To Last Week, According to My iPhone }

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{Max pouting in bed on Sunday morning after a particularly rainy morning walk.}


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{A shrine dedicated to a deceased surfer, Karl Shinsato, who died in 2005.}


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{Even in the darkness, there is a golden ray of hope. Tourists and other sunset chasers (like us) at Diamond Head beach.}


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{Authentic Asian cuisine that’s super healthy and deliciously filling at Sweet Home Café in Mo‘ili‘ili.}


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{Max the Bear and Uncle L sunset chasing at China Walls, our normal sunset watching spot.}


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{While sunset chasing, we ran into some Instagram Friends, D, D and R, who also have a Wheaten Bear back home! Hi, guys!}


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{Tuesday’s OOTD.}


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{My quirky bunny ear headband and arm party on Tuesday.}


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{Max and his dad, N, sprawled out in the living room Wednesday Morning.}


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{Feelin’ pretty for small show with Jon Yamasato and Herb Ohta, Jr.}


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{Family portrait on Thursday after dinner with my cousins and uncle at our usual Thursday spot, the Kailua Farmers Night Market.}


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{Max was all loved up on Uncle L, one of his favorite uncles.}


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{The epic and lush Windward Side (East side) of Oahu as seen from the Pali Lookout – Kaneohe Bay and Kaneohe town in the distance.}


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{Kaneohe Bay glitters aqua and bright.}


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{More views of the lush landscape of the Windward Side looking toward Kailua and Kapa‘a Quarry in the distance.}


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{Uncle L and the amazing Windward Side landscape sprawling below.}


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{Cliff jumpers contemplating their fate at La‘i‘e Point on the North Shore, Oahu.}


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{Epic waves batter the sharply textured rocks at La‘i‘e Point on the North Shore. Husby and Max in the distance.}


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{My favorite place to get amazing locally grown Hawaiian coffees on the North Shore: Coffee Gallery.}


{My Hawaii Life in Pictures}

  • Sunday: Lazy day cleaning the house and hanging with Max.
  • Monday: Dropped off Uncle in Waikiki before work, then picked him up after his lazy beach day, took him sunset chasing at Diamond Head Beach, and then do dinner at Sweet Home Cafe in Mo‘ili‘ili
  • Tuesday: Worked, then met Uncle, Husby and Max at China Walls, our normal sunset chasing haunt, but our sunset blocked by clouds. However, we ended up running into some Instagram friends, D and R and their daughter D, who also have a Wheaten Bear back home in California! Yay, FRANZ.
  • Wednesday: Worked, then jammed into town to see Jon Yamasato and Herb Ohta, Jr., local recording artists play some beautiful Hawaiian music.
  • Thursday: Worked, then jammed over to the Windward Side to eat dinner with my cousins (who were also visiting Hawaii at the same time) and my Uncle at the Kailua Farmers Night Market. We forgot to snap photos with my cousins, but we did get a family portrait with a very hyper Bear[Dog].
  • Friday: Took Friday off work for Doctor’s appointments and to hang out with la familia in the evening, heading out to Lanikai Beach where I also forgot to take pictures. Oops.
  • Saturday: Morning appointments, then a massage at my regular spot, gifting a session to my uncle as well! Lunch, and then afternoon road trip up the east shore and up to the North Shore with lots of pictures to be snapped.
  • Sunday, Uncle left, but I’ll save these photos for next week’s post.

How was your week last week?

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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Room Tour

Room tours and apartment/home tours are all this big thing on YouTube. I thought, why not show you a little bit more about my life, including welcoming y’alls into my home.

{ My Life in Pictures: My Tour Mah Boudoir! }

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{ Oh, Hai! Welcome to my room! }


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{ This stitching picture was a wedding present from a dear friend. It hangs on the small wall facing our door and greets me when I come in my room. Two nerds, together forever. }


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{ What you see when you walk in. Our first “grown up” bed… }


This is the first full view of our bedroom from the door. This is our first “grown up bed”… our first bed was an Ikea hand-me-down. It didn’t have a headboard. It was white. We appreciated being able to sleep without splashing out for a bed, and we were grateful to our relatives for the gift. Of course, since we moved here without a bed, we needed to get one anyway, but as 30 Somethings, we thought it was finally time to upgrade to a real adult bed and migrate out of the whole Dormroom Chic decor look.

As people who are rather lazy when it comes to style (function is key in our home), we opt for easy beddings instead of super sick stylish ones I lust after in magazines. We don’t need to undress and re-dress the bed with 5,000 decorative pillows. Two each suffice. Each pillow should serve a function, instead of gathering dust on the bed or on the floor just to make a pretty picture. I end up using his extra pillow for support. He’s a blanket hog, and I’m a pillow whore. It’s all about balance.

The orange picture is by one of our favorite designers, Aaron Draplin, and this limited edition print is every logo he’d ever designed up through mid 2009. He’s one of the most brilliant designers I’ve ever heard of/seen–he makes fonts for his logos by hand!

The blue print above our bed is actually symbolic in a couple of ways:

  1. The Na Pali coast on northwest Kaua‘i is where Husby and I hiked a perilous, painful 9 mile hike and got engaged at the 7th mile on August 27, 2008. Almost a year later to the day, we got married in a castle in my homeland (Canada).
  2. This particular print was created by a local designer, Nick, based out of Ewa Beach. You can buy this print along with many other lovely prints in his Etsy Store Everything is Jake. Support Local.

We love how the aqua blue ties in with our desired design palette of grey neutrals plus pops of yellow, blue, green and orange.


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{ By Draplin Design Company. Every logo designed by Aaron Draplin through May 2009. }


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{ Where we got engaged during a particularly terrifying hike in 2008. Husby popped the question at mile 7 above Hanakapi‘ai Beach. }


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{ This rug from UO makes me so happy. It’s quirky and adorable with the overly trendy mustache. Don’t care. }


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{ MY side. So cluttered. Ottoman with tray as side table. Functional and fun. }


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{ Small pops of color, like this yellow tray from Target and this ocean candle bring energy to our otherwise neutral room. I keep lipbalms and antiaging treatments in the JewelMint box to apply before bed. }


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{ His side. Michigan love and his Nintendo DS. }


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{ We got married in the X-Men castle. NERDS!!! Photos from the happy day. }


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{ From when he was too sick to touch me. Kisses and hugs. }


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{ Waiting for my kisses and hugs. }


So, in case you were wondering, those Post-Its on the headboard aren’t just some random notes or clutter. During the time these photos were taken, Husby had been suffering from Shingles. Given that I have lupus and that I am extremely susceptible to sickness, my doctor and his doctor advised we severely limit contact until the illness subsided. Separate beds, separate rooms, no touching, different laundry baskets, etc. Since this meant no Snuggles and no smoochies, N came up with a system of showing his affection using different colored Post-Its. Blue = Kiss. Green = Hug. He would stick them on a wall or somewhere random for me to find and I collected them above my bed to remind me how much he loves me before I went to sleep… ALONE. So cute. I still have the Post-Its in the JewelMint box next to my side of the bed.


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{ My jewelry collection on top of our dresser in the corner. }


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{ Organized chaos? }


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{ Things I love: Fifi Lapin, local boutique Fighting Eel and their awesome logo, tea cups for jewelry. }


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{ Krisatomic prints accompany my lone necklace organizing rack from UO. Yet another work in progress. }


We have very little counter space, so I tend to just toss all my jewelry in cups and containers in a huge jumble on top of our dresser in the corner. The dresser is too tall to see much, and as such, is not the most ideal place to store jewelry, since you wear what you can see. I bought the gold leaf hook thingy on the wall from UO on clearance and so far, it’s helped me wear chains and necklaces I forgot I had after they no longer hid in the bottom of a cup.

I would ideally love to fill this wall with a mosaic/patchwork of different quirky and adorable prints I find here and there. But finding the right frames is a project.


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{ Playing with a flower pouf I intend to hang one day — it’s been sitting on the floor for THREE months. }


As with everything else in my house, the decor of my space is far from ideal, but right now it works. Budget, time and lack of style constrains me. Right now, this is the most decorated of a bedroom I’ve ever had. Eventually, it’ll come together. But why not show you what it is now instead of waiting til it’s finished… it’ll probably never be finished. Like myself, my style, my room and my house are all works-in-progress.

Did you enjoy this room tour? One day, I’d like to show you the rest of our home.

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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Preview: Bonjour, Boudoir!

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{ Bonjour, Mae’s Boudoir! }


Wanna see my room? Coming soon to a browser near you. Details tomorrow… so late, can’t stay awake…. time for sleep.

Good night, lover!

Mae xx

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Life Inspo: Just. Breathe.

Here’s my inspiration for the week: { Just Breathe. One Moment At A Time. }

{ How to get through the day? Repeat after me: “I’m going to be okay.” }

And I will be okay, even though it’s Monday. I got through half of it so far. I can keep going.

Sometimes, when you struggle with a constant war with something insanely difficult, getting through one day is a battle won in and of itself. It’s okay if, for one day, just breathing and surviving is your mission.

Lesson to learn: You’re going to be OK. Just breathe. You’ll make it to tomorrow.

Rock on, Lover!
Me ke aloha ~ With love + aloha,
Mae Xx


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